Married young in a rural village – usually in the North or North East somewhere, and partnered by her family with an ill-suited young man, who quickly becomes restless and ends up boozing and womanising like his father did, and his father before that. Girl receives no social security money from the state, or child maintenance from the father of her children.So, pressure falls on the girl to find work to support the children and her aging parents, who, by the way, she has already disappointed by having a failed marriage, and further upset by now being a single mother and scarring the face of family pride.You see, narcissists don’t believe the truth serves them.They don’t believe they are lovable and acceptable as they are, and they carry immense shame for the way they have to operate.If you found this article helpful, please join over 50,000 people who receive weekly guidance on how to not just survive … You will also receive 2 free ebooks which lay out the vital first steps you need to take in order to recover. I would love to hear the comments from people who have detached, focused on being true to themselves, and have seen the narcissist’s false power crumble …Your insights will be of great benefit to those individuals who still need to go through police, settlements and custody matters, and as such, your post would be a lovely and inspirational contribution.You know that this person had no respect for integrity or at those times, and thought they were entitled to behave like this – regardless of committing fraud, breaking the law, or how it affected the integrity of an organisation or the reputation of other individuals.You know this person is capable of faking situations, illnesses and injuries in order to try and gain sympathy or detract from the real issues at hand.
Narcissists are a false self – and therefore don’t have a conscience when it comes to lying.You see, narcissists act in horrendous ways, don’t take accountability and try to ease their pathological shame by trying to prove they are Of course the excuses, smear campaigns and deflections are going to be lies – because the narcissist will try to line you up and accuse you of exactly what he or she is doing. In every case, of every person I have dealt with who is in combat with a narcissist’s pathology – I have seen them win easily time when: 1) All pain, personalisation and angst regarding the narcissist’s lies are released.This allows you to shrug off the rubbish, disprove it easily and simply put forward the truth.Girl then becomes determined to give a better life to her children, and to elevate the face of her family in the village.
Girl hears from another girl that working in a bar in the city, or on one of the popular tourist islands, is the best way to make fast money, and to meet a rich foreign boyfriend who will be prepared to take on her kids and support her parents (or a story very similar to that).
You know that he or she has created untruths and smear campaigns against you in the past, and continually breaks his or her word, drags up information from the past (that he or she professed to be resolved with), and is never happy to live and reside in the without projecting inner emptiness and torment onto you and making his or her inner demons your fault.