There’s a short guy—-the Japanese really are short! That’s because the people who didn’t get lucky have already left. Although I still believe that for her to opine about dating as a foreign man seems roughly on par with me talking about being a German blogger. They like “foreigners.” It’s like somebody visited Japan one time, went home and wrote about it, and from then on everybody ran around repeating the same stuff. In fact, if you stay long enough, and you don’t hook up, then by default everyone’s hooking up but you. So in the end, I wrote the article, partly because I enjoy reading Jasmine’s site and wanted to contribute. Often, instead of women meditating on whether or not they want to have sex and how that sex will affect THEM, they are caught up in trying to determine how having sex will make them look in the eyes of their lovers, families and friends.What is lost in translation is pleasure and freedom, which is really what sex is all about anyway, yes? Listen to what Steve Harvey himself has to say about why women should practice the three-month rule here.Hey, these women are veterans- many are married (or divorced) with children and mortgages, and know better than to rely on rules that ultimately inhibit them from doing what they want.One friend commented, “If I wait three months for sex and its wack, I’m going to be pissed. ” For a woman who has limited time to date and frolic, trying to uphold rules surrounding desire can be viewed as repressive, and plain nonsensical.
The funny thing is, I don’t think I’ve actually met any guys here who’ve said that. I won’t go into one of the many rants I have stored up on how damaging the mere premise of Steve Harvey’s Think Like A Man, Act Like A Lady book can be to women attempting to maneuver through already confusing dating and relationship rituals.That ship has sailed, we all watched it make its bon voyage.But again, as one ages and learns to trust her inner-voice, she quickly figures out what will work for her and what won’t.