Now it’s been two days and I’ve heard nothing from him.I really like this guy and feel there’s a connection, but I’m afraid that if I pursue this I’m going to end up being the rebound no matter what I do.“Oh, she’s just a rebound,” “She just broke up, she’s looking for a rebound,” etc. When a relationship ends, there are all sorts of loose ends and areas of life that end up changing (depending on how closely connected these two people were.) The rebound happens when the guy or girl doesn’t address the loose ends and just seeks out another relationship to “shortcut” getting their life back into the order it was in before.I’m not just talking about finding a replacement girlfriend who can cook as well as well as the last one or is willing to do the same things with you the last one was.The bulk of the healing happened within the first month and a half (and probably would have happened quickly if I had just acknowledged that I needed time to work everything out in my head and lifestyle.) My point in all of this is that it’s up to the guy to work his issues out.There’s no way to shortcut this for him or for you – he needs to do it himself.I can’t tell you how many times I have had a client come into my office obsessing about the last person they dated.Once I get them out on a few dates they become distracted by all the fun they are having, and their mind opens up to the many possibilities that are out there for their future.
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If something looks like it’s going to explode, it’s good to stand far away.Another hot topic is whether or not a matchmaker should work with a client who is newly separated from their spouse.In one of my recent articles I discussed how there are many matchmakers who would never work with a client who isn’t yet divorced because they don’t feel they are emotionally ready for a new relationship.Hate to be blunt, but that’s the most likely scenario if he has a lot of unresolved issues from his breakup (or baggage, or loose ends, or whatever you want to call it.) If you can manage to step back gracefully and give him lots of space to really, truly work out his stuff, maybe in a month or two he’ll have it completely worked out and you two can start something on a virtually clean slate.
You would have to be patient and really disciplined to give him that space, but it’s much much better than going through a relationship where you’re competing with the ghost of an ex.
The date was actually really great – I was definitely into him and he showed every indication of being into me (the way he looked at me, the things he said, etc.) At one point, he mentioned that he’s really stressed right now because he just broke up with his girlfriend of 10 months a couple weeks ago.