0,recommended Playlist=video Details.recommended Video Playlist||'Y2RWCKu S',video Tags=video Details.video Tags||'',in Autoplay Countries=!The American College of Surgeons has published a Statement that addresses issues related to the working conditions for surgical residents.THE BEST ADVICE The best advice a doctor's wife gave me before we started medical school was: "have NO expectations." This, she told me, would ensure that I would "never be disappointed." At the time it seemed like a dismal attitude to have towards my husband and our relationship, but, honestly, it has probably saved our marriage.More importantly, I think it trained me to consistently assume that my husband is doing his best.AVOID UNNECESSARY ARGUMENTS A career in medicine is a demanding one.It constantly seems like there is just not enough "together" time.Other doctors' spouses are going through very similar kinds of experiences. COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS At times it has been difficult to feel that we are unified.
I had to remind myself often that this is the life that we chose together, despite all of the possible heartaches that could come with it. Bottom line: experiences during these years will be replaced with new ones and life is too important and too short to get upset about little things.Her granddaughter replied, "It's okay, Grandma, I usually feel better after ten or 15 minutes." Remember this when you are upset about something. Usually we actually do feel better after an hour or two, or even a day.FLEXIBILITY During his intern year, my husband discovered that his night's sleep was virtually undisturbed by our 6-month-old and 2-year-old if he slept in our guest bedroom.I feel that if I have a positive attitude and communicate openly with my husband, then we can survive anything.